CIP072: Jean Smith on Flirting for Introverts

In this week’s episode of the Creative Introvert podcast I talk to Jean Smith, social and cultural anthropologist and social intelligence coach.

This podcast is BY FAR the one I’ve most hesitated to publish because… I get coached. I don’t get coached on something you might expect either – not a topic we normally tackle on the podcast, but one I’ve been really hoping to, because it undoubtedly effects pretty much everyone at least if you’re… single.

What we talked about:

  • What challenges Jean sees most introverts have in common when it comes to flirting and meeting new people
  • The H.O.T.A.P.E. technique for flirting
  • Jean’s advice for introverts who want to meet people but don’t know where to look
  • What Jean thinks of online dating for introverts
  • What Jean recommends we do in order to get talking to a stranger
  • How you can tell if someone is flirting
  • Some common myths around flirting
  • First dates – do’s and don’ts for introverts

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