How to Choose the ONE Thing To Focus On
The Age of Distraction.
I believe Leo Babauta first coined that phrase, but whoever it was it’s pretty dead-on.
Other than a Buddhist monk I recently met, I’m sure everyone I know struggles with focus.
Whether it’s email, Whatsapp, text messages, Periscope notifications, Pokémon Go (totally understandable)… we simply live in an age where our mind is spoiled with stimulus.
So, how to choose the one thing we need to focus on.
I’ve dug into this briefly in previous posts, but I’ve recently found myself struggling with decision fatigue and general distraction all over again.
Turns out: it’s a constant battle.
Find Your ONE Thing Spreadsheet
I’ve spent the last 3 months laser focussed on getting my 4-week online course out, and whilst I’m thrilled about that, I also found myself in a bit of a mid-year crisis.
Er… what’s next?
The problem certainly wasn’t a lack of possible futures; it was the insane abundance of them.
Literally everything from learning Japanese to learning to play golf, to starting a crochet club to writing and self-publishing a book.
Hmmm…
Typical Jack-of-all-trades multipassionate entrepreneur.
Rather than being energised by all these ideas zooming around, it left me feeling bored, and totally unable to focus on anything - therefore, I couldn’t DO anything.
When I can’t do anything, I feel like a sack of shit, quite frankly.
So I switched on my planning hyperdrive, and started to take action.
This is my full action plan, step-by-step, which WILL take you from 1,387,238 potential to-do’s to your ONE thing.
Step 1: Book time to do this
To calm my frazzled brain, I had to take myself away from the scene of the crime (or lack thereof) which was my home/office.
I walked a good 45 minutes to get to the calmest, most quiet coffee shop I knew, and parked myself there for 2 hours.
There are various reasons for this step:
(1) The walk will help your mind to settle, de-stress and free it up for some good thinking
(2) You get out of the familiar space that you associate with the lack-of-focus or general stress
(3) You can pick somewhere with no wifi, and free yourself from other distractions like cleaning your desk etc
(4) Carving the time out makes you DO it - this is a fairly painful task and I found myself putting it off like everything else
Step 2: Braindump
I LOVE a good braindump.
It’s a less organised brainstorm, or spider diagram, in my opinion.
You just write EVERYTHING down that you want to do or think you should be doing, and worry about sorting it later.
Use pen and paper, or just open a doc in Word if you prefer. I personally choose to dump in list format because cloud-type diagrams make me worry too much about layout and organisation (which comes next.)
Get it all out.
Order more coffee.
Step 3: Categorise
This was important in my case because some of my ‘to-dos’ were more like hobbies; others were to do with my online business.
If this is the case, you don’t have to pick just one or the other to focus on next: for example, my life isn’t JUST business; I make time for hobbies strategically.
So, choosing some loose categories will help you in the next stage.
Think about how you want your life to be balanced: even if it’s vague. For me, it was Creative, Income, Hobby.
My tasks all roughly fit into each category, and I know I can focus on one from each and still have time in my week to see friends and family (a non-negotiable.)
Step 4: Order
Now it’s time to get these into a sexy spreadsheet 😉
Find Your ONE Thing Spreadsheet
You knew it was coming.
Your spreadsheet will consist of the following columns:
(1) The task
(2) Time investment
(3) Financial investment
(4) Potential income
(5) Enjoyment
(6) Importance
Now, these were just my priorities: it’s how I chose to determine what’s worth focussing on right now for ME.
This could be totally different for you, just use this as it is: a guide.
Now you want to give each task a rating (eg. 1–5) on how well they score against the priority.
Note: Because time investment and financial investment are things you want to avoid (I assume) something that costs a lot of money for example, would score a 1.
Something that generates a lot of money would score a 5.
So, low numbers = bad, high numbers = good.
Note 2: if you had a few different categories from Step 3, make a separate sheet for each category of task.
Step 5: The big reveal
The best part is about this technique is that the decision making is left to maths!
The one time I like maths…
So when all your ratings are in, add them up for each task (select the row, and hit Functions > SUM) to get each task’s total score.
Then hit sort for the column with all the total scores…
And BOOM!
The highest task wins the prize of your next ONE thing to focus on.
— DISCLAIMER —
So, I found myself happy with the one thing that was revealed next, but it doesn’t mean my intuition was ignored.
In fact, it made itself very clear that something in me was still drawn to certain tasks that didn’t score so highly.
This shouldn’t be ignored.
Whilst I’m going with the spreadsheet on this occasion, I made a separate column for those tasks that feel irrationally unforgettable, and just put an ‘x’ in those rows.
In time, they’ll either reveal themselves as MUST DO tasks, or not. I’m just saying that intuition is worth noting, even when your rational brain tells you otherwise.
Find Your ONE Thing Spreadsheet

Omg THANK YOU for this! I can never figure out my ONE thing….I’m like ok, I know the most important thing to do for each category, but how do I know which category I’m supposed to be working on?! I’m definitely trying your spreadsheet, thank you!!
I hear ya! I know it’s tempting to have a gazzilion categories and still try to do everything! I’m currently limiting this to days of the working week myself, so I have 5 categories but that’s me maxing out! At ‘buckle down’ times (like the past 12 weeks) I was focussing 90% of my energy on literally one category. I definitely think there are periods of the year we can be more ‘exploratory’ vs. more focussed - hah now I want to write a post on THAT!
It’s interesting how we function differently. I’m introverted, yet when I am overwhelmed and get overzealous with ideas, I’ll put them all down. Stop in my tracks completely. Sometimes I might make a list of them on paper, but an excel spreadsheet would send my mind into tilt mode. All the same, the thought processing works. When I’ve set everything down after a day or so, if I take a fresh look at everything only a few things will even look appealing. If one or two still call to me, I can evaluate at that time in your fashion-merit style.
Interesting Janet! I think it’s the INTJ in me - I can get madly analytical when the situation calls 😉
That said, like you I DO like to start with a total ‘brain dump’, and I have a list on my phone for those ideas that catch me when I’m on a walk or waiting in a line!
And I agree that time is one of the best deciders - like you, if something STILL appeals a day or, better yet, a week later - I know it’s a good’un 😉
Hey Cat,
I’ve had this post bookmarked for a while (talk about procrastination and putting thigs off…). I’ve read it now, and it’s wonderful and really resonated with me. Feeling like I don’t get anything done satisfactorily between my many goals is probably my biggest stressor right now. It makes me feel unsatisfied and less competent at everything than I wish to be, because I don’t focus my time and energy on getting REALLY good at one thing, but spread it out, to the effect of being sort-of-okay at many things. It bugs me.
Have you ever played Dungeons&Dragons? We’re like bards. They can sort of do a bit of everything, but their abilities in each field level up soooo slowly. -_- That said, however, if you know how to play them right, all their abilities can be combined to devastating effect. So I hope we can both become good bards. 😉
I’m going to give your spreadsheet a try. I’m usually more comfortable with relying on my gut feeling, but sometimes my gut clearly gets distracted by all the delicious, shiny things out there. So maybe some good, reliable maths is the way to go. 😉 Thank you for sharing this. It’s so easy to forget that we’re never the only ones facing a specific problem. We’re not. So many people out there, and there are always kindred spirits.
Love,
Sarah
Thanks so much for reading Sarah - seriously I know how many posts that go on my backburner before I get around to reading them so I mean that 😉
I also LOVE the D+D analogy - you should totally write that post! I totally agree that a combination of the right skills can be incredibly powerful (Scott Adams’ book ‘How to Fail at Everything and Still Win Big’ deals with this really well) so that always brings me comfort 😉
Let me know how the spreadsheet goes if you give it a whirl! x
I’ll add this to my list of things to do..
Hahaha hang on a second…
Thank you for this, for reminding me not to ignore the math when my creative brain can make me so indecisive!
You’re welcome Leslie! Haha gotta love those creative brains of ours 😉