Helpers are warm, concerned, nurturing, and sensitive to other people’s needs.
Twos are incredibly loving and generous, but if they become disappointed or disillusioned in someone and start to feel isolated or alone: they increasingly suppress their feelings in order to maintain their image of themselves.
The problem is that Two’s tend to look outside of themselves for validation. When they don’t get these positive responses, they tend to repress their disappointment and wear themselves out trying to win people over.
This would suggest that Two’s tend to be extroverts, but that’s just my theory.
Threes are in the middle of the triad, and have some of the traits of both Twos and Fours. They tend to look outside themselves to determine what activities or qualities are valued by the people who matter to them, and they try to become the kind of person who has those qualities. At the same time, they engage in a lot of inner dialogue and imagination about the kind of person they would like to become.
I see Three’s as your classic self development junkie. The problem with that, at it’s most extreme, is that it will lead the Three to reject their authentic self, and that none of their accomplishments no matter how great, can really affect or satisfy them.
Achivers are energetic, optimistic, self-assured, and goal oriented.
Unlike twos who look outwards for support, you have Fours which do not identify so much with other people, and tend to look inside themselves, constructing their view of themselves from their feelings and imagination. More like an introverted feeling type if you’re comparing the Enneagram types to Myers Briggs.
Fours have sensitive feelings and are warm and perceptive. In addition, fours get their sense of self from feeling different from others or special in some way. This can be both a gift and a curse – a gift, because it sets them apart from those they perceive as being somehow “common,” or ordinary and a curse, as it can seem to separate them from the joy that others seem to share. I guess it’s like being on the outside looking in; which can feel isolating.
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